I had plans for writing all day yesterday, that fell through when I was finished grocery shopping and then I suddenly became ill. I was in bed by 6:30 pm. I didn't start feeling better until after midnight.
I was contemplating what being a friend means to me. It's because even though my 'D' and I have talked, we have yet to talk in the detail we used to. I tread so lightly with him, afraid I'll say or do something to bother him. That's when it dawned on me that I need to relax and let it flow naturally. It always did before, it will again. Just as long as I stop treating us like a piece of china. Real friends can get through anything, my 'D' and are true friends.
If I cannot be myself with my friends, what is the use of being friends with that person. That would just be a waste of time for both of us. I need to say how I feel and not be so afraid, otherwise I will always walk on egg shells and where will that get anyone.
I feel like I'm on a path with a choice as we all are on from time to time. This time the choice seems much easier, yet it's not. It's actually harder because I can see this from all sides, not just one way.
Life is not just two colors, life is made up of many shades. The older I get, the easier you would think the decision would be but it only seems to get more difficult.
Choose the right, I wish it was always that simple.
"Everything you want, also wants you" ~ Jack Canfield
8 comments:
Hello Launna:
Life is of course made up of choices, some of which we get right, others hopelessly wrong. But, as you write here, the important thing is to be true to oneself, and to accept others as they are for none of us is perfect.
Thank you very much!
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Hi Jane and Lance, I really hope people can remember that no one is perfect.... we just need to be ourselves. Thank you for the lovely comment;)
You are welcome Maria;)
Just be yourself and the friendship will pick up where it left off. If friendship isn't working out with someone and you feel you have to act like someone you are not, then let it go because they were never a real friend to begin with!
That's very true menopausal mama, I know that it's me making it weird, not wanting to rock the boat. I'm just going to be me, it's what made us close in the beginning:)
I understand your emotions with this. I'm in the midst of finding even ground in a relationship that's very important to me. Interestingly, I have come to the same conclusion - that going back to simple approach, being ourselves and just enjoying one another, is what worked to begin with. It's when we start getting in our own way that miscommunication and misunderstandings bog things down. Back to simple enjoyment is where I am focusing. :)
- Dawn
Thank you for your comment Dawn, I had to go back to basics too. I just need to be me, everything will work out as it should.
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